Gloria Busungu

“Watoto wa sikuhzi hawana adabu,hawaheshimu wakubwa,wanaongea lugha chafu,hawavai mavazi ya heshima,wala hawafanyi vizuri katika kazi wanazoepewa”. Hii ilikua sauti ya mwanamke akilalamika kuhusu kizazi kilichozaliwa mwaka 1990 na kuendelea. Labda yupo sahihi, au Labda hayupo sahihi, simhukumu, lakini sentensi yake ilinikumbusha kuhusu neno moja Garbage in-Garbage out , kwenye komputa na Nyanja nyingine, linatumika kueleze wazo kwamba ukiweka kitu kibovu au chenye thamani hafifu utapata matokeo mabovu. Kabla hatujalalamika kuhusu namna wanaishi tuanglie nini tunawapa. Kwanza watoto wanakua kwenye mazingira ya kelele(miziki, matusi, na televisheni). Na hata kwa sasa maeneo ya vijijini ambapo familia zinaweza kukosa hata radio, watoto wanasikia fujo hizo kwenye pikipiki (bodaboda) ambao wanipiga miziki hiyo kwa uhuru barabarani. Watoto hawa wanachukua yote, na kutoka na umri wao, hawajui kipi bora kwao, hawajui ni mavazi gani wavae, miziki gani wasikilize, magazeti au majarida au

“Today’s children have no manners, they don’t respect elders, they speak foul language, they don’t wear decent clothes neither do they perform well in any activity that they are assigned to”. This was a sound of a woman complaining about the generation born in 1990’s and above. Maybe she is right, maybe she is not, I don’t judge her, but her statement reminded me of one term Garbage in-Garbage out , in computing and other fields, it is used to express the idea that incorrect or poor-quality input will produce faulty output. Before we complain about how they behave let’s have a look at what we give them. First as kids they grow in a noise environment (music, insults, and televisions). And as of now even in villages where a family may not have a radio, they hear them in streets even boda-boda play music’s freely. They just take in all they get and according to their age they may even not know what is the best thing for them, they don’t know the right cloth to wear, the music to

Love is a beautiful thing, it begins within. Even the scripture says that “Love your neighbor as yourself”, it’s a conditional statement you love yourself first then you will know how to love others/ neighbor as you love you. There is no pure love to others if we have not loved ourselves enough. One of the best feeling in this world, is to know and be sure that you are loved as who you are, that someone knows the really you, your flaws and forte and loves you anyways. This begins with you first loving you as you are, knowing your strength and weakness and love yourself anyway, this gives you the strength to patiently understanding others and love others as they are. In life we are opportune to live with family, friends and neighbors who have different behaviors and attitudes, some of the behavior may feel offensive but one of the things I have learned is that you are not the emotional caretaker of everyone who is important to you, you have only one duty and that is to love th